Wednesday 29 April 2020

CHANGE HOW WE DEAL WITH ABUSE IN SOCIETY - Awake the Elephant in the Room



THE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM

The elephant in the room is the way it has been for too long. Its looming mass is there for everyone to see, and yet it remains invisible to society. How can this be so? As it is, indeed, an enormous bulk of a problem but people tiptoe around it, doing what they can to appease it. The elephant needs to become an angel with wings so broad; creating an upsurge of energy to contend with the extent of the issue and change how we deal with abuse. And then a ripple effect will begin to slow and lessen the grip abusers have on the vulnerable people in our society.
The elephant disappears, and the angel emerges to combat every aspect of the multi-faceted problem. Different approaches will all lead to the same conclusion where abusers are made accountable for their actions, get convicted, and their depraved networks shut down. But how can one golden angel do this? Easy, she will fly so high that her insight and innovation will add to the new wave of action. And it is this radical new solution that will gain momentum, and make a permanent change happen. It will not only help those who are already damaged from abuse but also protect future generations.

The spotlight
You might think that this is a wonderment, wishful thinking and one person wanting things to change. But this is so much more than that. It is a message from a higher authority that a day of reckoning will happen for those that abuse and damage so many lives. Bring forth new forensic techniques, new healing methods and new ways to cause the downfall of the ‘under-class’. They are indeed a class of despicable people that will go under: not behind a veil of secrecy or hidden from view so that they can continue to do what they should not be doing. The spotlight will shine directly on them, and they will not know what to do! Their hiding places will no longer protect them and society will get their wake up call. 

EFFECTS OF ABUSE INSIDE THE BODY

The hurt left behind from abuse is so destructive that the soul shatters like glass. The tiny fragments condense into an even smaller but more intense point of emotion that wreaks havoc with mental health and physical malaise. So how can such a small area of emotional energy create changes in how a person lives and thinks? The tiny area of so much hurt and pain is stuck and unable to move by itself, so there it remains deeply buried within the body. It is a natural phenomenon where interlinking energies shift and flux between different parts of the body. If a person continually ruminates about a particular issue in their life, then more energy goes to serve that process. It creates a surge of energy that makes a new electrical pathway. 

A good analogy is to think of it as reinforcing the interconnected strands of a spider’s web. The more robust the strand is, the more difficult it is to break it. And so it is this laying down of stronger electrical, neurological strands reinforce the negative behaviour. In essence, the strands keep adding and becoming more substantial, and the core of hurt more compressed and potent in its ability to reinforce the behaviour. Fortunately, there is now a new healing solution for abuse survivors, and that is to have its destructive influence removed forever. The ties that bind become severed and in doing so, the core of hurt releases and the strong and sturdy strands are rendered useless. And thus, the destructive nature of trapped emotion from past abuse is prevented.

A NEW WAY TO VISUALISE THE STORED EMOTION

The core of hurt and pain is not visible to the naked eye or any form of an imaging device, and yet there it resides deep within the body. There will be a time when the stored emotion from abuse is made visible, but it requires advances in imaging technology. It is indeed, an exciting prospect that the core of hurt and how it creates strands that hold it in place while influencing other aspects of physiology and psychology will become evident. The way forward to viewing such a spectacular event in the body is light and how it refracts. An exciting prospect is that advances in medicine will tap into the personal refractive index and create targeted therapeutic approaches that are so specific for the person and the pathology.
Why is it so important to view the effects of abuse inside the body tissues?
Abuse emotion has a particular refractive index, and the colours it creates are beyond visible light we see in rainbows. There is a whole new spectrum of light that is beyond the rainbow, and it can become visible to the naked eye if it is enhanced enough for us to see it. When the hidden damage is evident, it can give a forensic indication when memory and recall are absent. Because there is an energy connection between the abuser and the victim, it can also indicate who abused them. Indeed, the emotion from abuse is a calling card of energy that is left in there by the abuser. It will be a definitive aspect of the abuser's contribution to damaging the soul of a female victim and the thing that unmasks them. Potentially, so many abusers who refuse to acknowledge their abusive nature are prevented from continuing to destruct lives. 
by Linda J Newby, PhD
Healer and author for the abused
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Monday 27 April 2020

The Thief And The Pig - A Story About Abuse And Society


The Thief 

The Thief is not a person but represents the life that has been taken from you because you experienced abuse. In particular, it is the situation you are in at this stage in life. You notice several things don’t sit comfortably with you, but you feel powerless to do anything about them. Indeed, being helpless in life at any point is a sign that something needs to change so that the power dynamic is mutual. When you change the power dynamic for you, then powerlessness is blown away.
It is difficult to know where to start and stepping out of what is so familiar to you is not easy to do. What I recommend is that you take the smallest of steps to change the dynamic. Make it easy to do so that it provides a very subtle difference to you. It will, therefore, be acceptable for you and the significant others around you. A straightforward and effective way of deducing what could make a difference is to think about everyday situations. Consider regular instances where you feel put upon, or taken for granted or undermined. It is those occurrences where little tweaks can swing things into your favour.
Remember, it is the mutuality of the power dynamic that is an advantage to you. It is not selfishness; it is valuing who you are. Place your efforts where they are needed and are of most use to improving your powerbase. Think of it as small activities that replenish you, rather than continuing to do what you no longer want to do just for someone else. Taking this approach will fuel you to make more small but significant steps and then Boom! Every part of you has infused your powerbase. 

It will lead you to bigger things, such as changing the state of affairs that fill you with dread. When you feel ready, they will not seem like a step too far. It will feel like the right thing for you to do at that time. The inner powerbase will continue to drive you forward, and the next significant shift happens. A time will come when you decide to remove the core of hurt and pain that still resides in your body. After all, it is yours to do something with, so do it.

The Pig

The pig, on the other hand, slowly snuffles and wallows in what feels pleasant. It represents the awful system that should protect the vulnerable from the diabolical people that prey on them. A society that feels comfortable when they don’t think about or act accordingly to the abuse children and adults suffer. It is so much easier to sweep it under the carpet until a mighty storm gathers. At the point when things are high profile, something gets done about it. Too much public outcry makes change happen. 

In the meantime, all the lower level, scandals keep happening every day. They remain hidden from the public gaze and public scrutiny. One abused person is not big enough, and yet when it becomes hundreds, society had better do something about it. It would be wrong not to wouldn’t it?
What is so erroneous is the unseen extent of abuse and its far-reaching effects on our health system and public finances. Every abused person is damaged, and they need access to the necessary support services to recover from it. Ignoring the extent of the matter time and time again allows it to continue to happen. The pig needs to see everything and acknowledge that even the smallest of cases have far-reaching consequences down the line. The pig needs to get a high viz jacket!

By Linda J Newby, PhD
Healer and author for the abused
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