Badge-R: The freedom to unite

Our badger is a metaphor for what is inside every one of us

Badgers have a poor reputation that leads to people persecuting and demonising them. They are the unseen animals of the night that forage and snuffle in the undergrowth for little morsels of food. Unfortunately, all that most people care to notice is black and white and grey. They are the colours within our society, of our mental state and our outlook of life.

If only we could see them in daylight. Alive and thriving rather than laid at the roadside with coats of bristle and down blowing in the wind. If only the badger's colours were different; a fur coat of vibrant red with streaks of yellow and gold. How treasured an animal they would be!

The Badge-R

The badger is just a ‘Badge – R’; a badge to symbolise how society has become and the direction we follow is glum. We can all take our ‘Badge – R’ and start to change who we are and how we live our lives.

So what about the ‘R’ on our Badge? Well, the ‘R’ is Respect. Respect each other, respect animals and our environment. The ‘R’ is any colour you choose, but the Badge remains as is – black, and white, and shades of grey. Bring the ‘Badge – R’ into the day and night and seven days a week. No more will it be nocturnal, undercover and discrete.

Bring vibrancy with communities united

Find the freedom to unite when our colours are so bright that they shine our very person. Someone who can change the colours to suit society's long term needs and bring vibrancy with communities united. To create a collective effort to re-connect society that respects our many differences.

A mission statement that we could all adhere to is to stand proud, be counted, and make a difference to your community. Share your dreams, skills, voice, and ventures. Bring communities back to the community and see what we all offer to one and other.

Society will flourish when people connect with real people, not the virtual or the pretend personas we see so much of in the media. Embrace individuality and remove the ‘I want to be like’ or the self-validation through the myriad of social media platforms. Be like yourself; it is the only way to be. You shall inspire, innovate and encourage individuality.

Badgers will always be badgers, sheep will always be sheep, but you can be who you are, a person with your thoughts, ideas, presence, and ambition. Step out of the night and raise your head and smile. You have found you and the freedom to unite.

By Linda Jane Newby, PhD

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The unveiling of deceit – A new forensic net

The need for a new forensic net

The big issue in our world is the abuse of so many things. Along with the perpetrators getting away with the most unspeakable things they do to vulnerable victims. If caught, there is a trawling through all of the evidence that supports the testimony. The focus lies with the recall of events and denial of the shocking details. As a consequence, it allows the loophole to widen and the abuser to slip through the net. 

There is a necessity for a new forensic net to capture this type of fish; one that deals with the grip of misery and cruelty. Also, it can apprehend more than the few that swim near the surface. In some cases, many perpetrators are directly involved with the act of abusing a victim too. It is for these reasons that there must be a shift in how to catch and convict abusers. And thus, obtaining definitive evidence that makes perpetrators culpable for their crimes!

How can a new forensic net catch so many fish that swim under the sonar?

It is, indeed, a big question, but the answer is easy. Why? Because the forensic modalities to do this new way of evidence finding are already available. All it requires is to use existing equipment differently and therefore, quickly implemented. The procedures I propose are revolutionary and intend to bring a new dimension to the value of the evidence collected. It brings forth new science to catch and convict abusers.

Disclosure of the specific details of the new methodologies in my articles is not the right forum. But instead, they will be revealed to those who want to pursue the cause with me. Meanwhile, it is the collection of samples from keypoint on the body that will set the cat amongst the pigeons. They are the procedures that seem so simple and yet, crucial points for absorbing evidence from the victim and likewise from the perpetrator. The exchange of evidence is a vital clue of proximity and involvement in the act of abuse. Proof of this is analysing samples harnessed from specific areas of the body in a multitude of ways. The evidence that has been overlooked and missed for some time shall be made evident.

What about validity?

There is always the question of validity and acceptance of a new way of doing things. Unfortunately, for some, it takes time for trust to build across different scientific and judicial disciplines. There are probably thoughts like ‘Making the impossible possible’, ‘finding the needle in a haystack’, spring to mind. Be assured that the five crucial areas for evidence collection will open the door to countless possibilities of testing the samples, and get more than enough definitive evidence to catch and convict abusers. At this early stage, it is the desire and intuition that bring innovation to forensics. It does, indeed, have the potential to legitimise new ways to get justice and healing for abuse victims. And also, securing its place in the necessary protection of future generations of children and vulnerable adults.

Benefits of the forensic net

They were there

The benefits of having a different forensic net are its ability to sift out several loopholes. Firstly, because of the amount of circumstantial evidence, it enables doubt to creep in. It manifests itself in the disparaging of the victim and disbelief of what is alleged. The new procedures provide the surest evidence that the victim was there, and the perpetrator(s) was there.

The perpetrator

Secondly, when the fish swim into the net, their fate is sealed. The undeniable evidence will get the conviction, and so many victims get the justice they rightly deserve. The specificity of the new methods and accuracy of the forensic evidence will leave no doubt that this person was the abuser. And crucially, they played an active part in damaging the victim. If there is definitive proof that the abuser had to be there then doesn’t that answer the question of their whereabouts?

Giving an alternative view of what happened, where they were or were not will have less importance. In particular, when abusers vehemently deny their wrongdoing, another form of forensic evidence will solve that issue. The “I was there, but it was not me that did it” will not excuse them. The way their creative excuses get questioned will build further evidence that it was them that did the abuse. In the long run, trying to disprove what they did will be near impossible.

False accusation

Thirdly, it uncovers those who falsely accuse someone of abuse. Such as those who sensationalise displeasure with a particular person’s behaviour. The fame or fortune hunters choose to promote in life, dishonesty, pointing the finger and want for five minutes of celebrity. As for the fantasist who accuses someone of abuse, well their lies will be exposed very quickly indeed. All of this duplicity discredits a system that should be and could be helping the actual victims of abuse. Therefore, obtaining definitive evidence that abuse carried out by that perpetrator with that victim improves the integrity of the system. Not only will it get justice for so many abuse survivors, but it also removes perpetrators from society to put an end to their despicable ways.

Children

Fourthly, a shift to get significant forensic evidence in new ways means that children will not have to recall the terrible things that happened to them. Indeed, re-traumatising is never an option just because adults need to know every little detail. Let the definitive evidence speak for itself and then recall of the events does not have to be scrutinised to a degrading level just to get a conviction.

Unmask the wolves

There are, unfortunately, too many people hiding behind the victims’ shame, guilt and brokenness. Perpetrators know that intimidation, threats of violence, and plying of narcotics and alcohol will keep them quiet. But now is the time to unmask the wolves and give them what they deserve – a new forensic web! And by getting the innovative techniques in place, the net simply lies in wait for the perpetrators to swim into it. And then the forensic evidence shall unequivocally point the spotlight to catch and convict abusers. Only then can it bring reassurance they did abuse that victim beyond a reasonable doubt. How the wolf will cry and protest, but the definitive evidence will speak so loudly, they will know that they have, indeed, got caught.

You will find within the pages of stepping closer to healing from past abuse a powerful installation of metaphorical stories that bring a different perception to the hidden wounds within the body and in society.

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by Linda J Newby, PhD

Founder of Decus/healer/author for the abused

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CHANGE HOW WE DEAL WITH ABUSE IN SOCIETY - Awake the Elephant in the Room

THE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM

The elephant in the room is the way it has been for too long. Its looming mass is there for everyone to see, and yet it remains invisible to society. How can this be so? As it is, indeed, an enormous bulk of a problem but people tiptoe around it, doing what they can to appease it. The elephant needs to become an angel with wings so broad; creating an upsurge of energy to contend with the extent of the issue and change how we deal with abuse. And then a ripple effect will begin to slow and lessen the grip abusers have on the vulnerable people in our society.

The elephant disappears, and the angel emerges to combat every aspect of the multi-faceted problem. Different approaches will all lead to the same conclusion where abusers are made accountable for their actions, get convicted, and their depraved networks shut down. But how can one golden angel do this? Easy, she will fly so high that her insight and innovation will add to the new wave of action. And it is this radical new solution that will gain momentum, and make a permanent change happen. It will not only help those who are already damaged from abuse but also protect future generations.

The spotlight

You might think that this is a wonderment, wishful thinking and one person wanting things to change. But this is so much more than that. It is a message from a higher authority that a day of reckoning will happen for those that abuse and damage so many lives. Bring forth new forensic techniques, new healing methods and new ways to cause the downfall of the ‘under-class’. They are indeed a class of despicable people that will go under: not behind a veil of secrecy or hidden from view so that they can continue to do what they should not be doing. The spotlight will shine directly on them, and they will not know what to do! Their hiding places will no longer protect them and society will get their wake up call. 

EFFECTS OF ABUSE INSIDE THE BODY

The hurt left behind from abuse is so destructive that the soul shatters like glass. The tiny fragments condense into an even smaller but more intense point of emotion that wreaks havoc with mental health and physical malaise. So how can such a small area of emotional energy create changes in how a person lives and thinks? The tiny area of so much hurt and pain is stuck and unable to move by itself, so there it remains deeply buried within the body. It is a natural phenomenon where interlinking energies shift and flux between different parts of the body. If a person continually ruminates about a particular issue in their life, then more energy goes to serve that process. It creates a surge of energy that makes a new electrical pathway. 

A good analogy is to think of it as reinforcing the interconnected strands of a spider’s web. The more robust the strand is, the more difficult it is to break it. And so it is this laying down of stronger electrical, neurological strands reinforce the negative behaviour. In essence, the strands keep adding and becoming more substantial, and the core of hurt more compressed and potent in its ability to reinforce the behaviour. Fortunately, there is now a new healing solution for abuse survivors, and that is to have its destructive influence removed forever. The ties that bind become severed and in doing so, the core of hurt releases and the strong and sturdy strands are rendered useless. And thus, the destructive nature of trapped emotion from past abuse is prevented.

A NEW WAY TO VISUALISE THE STORED EMOTION

The core of hurt and pain is not visible to the naked eye or any form of an imaging device, and yet there it resides deep within the body. There will be a time when the stored emotion from abuse is made visible, but it requires advances in imaging technology. It is indeed, an exciting prospect that the core of hurt and how it creates strands that hold it in place while influencing other aspects of physiology and psychology will become evident. The way forward to viewing such a spectacular event in the body is light and how it refracts. An exciting prospect is that advances in medicine will tap into the personal refractive index and create targeted therapeutic approaches that are so specific for the person and the pathology.

Why is it so important to view the effects of abuse inside the body tissues?

Abuse emotion has a particular refractive index, and the colours it creates are beyond visible light we see in rainbows. There is a whole new spectrum of light that is beyond the rainbow, and it can become visible to the naked eye if it is enhanced enough for us to see it. When the hidden damage is evident, it can give a forensic indication when memory and recall are absent. Because there is an energy connection between the abuser and the victim, it can also indicate who abused them. Indeed, the emotion from abuse is a calling card of energy that is left in there by the abuser. It will be a definitive aspect of the abuser's contribution to damaging the soul of a female victim and the thing that unmasks them. Potentially, so many abusers who refuse to acknowledge their abusive nature are prevented from continuing to destruct lives. 

by Linda J Newby, PhD

Healer and author for the abused

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The Thief And The Pig - A Story About Abuse And Society

The Thief 

The Thief is not a person but represents the life that has been taken from you because you experienced abuse. In particular, it is the situation you are in at this stage in life. You notice several things don’t sit comfortably with you, but you feel powerless to do anything about them. Indeed, being helpless in life at any point is a sign that something needs to change so that the power dynamic is mutual. When you change the power dynamic for you, then powerlessness is blown away.

It is difficult to know where to start and stepping out of what is so familiar to you is not easy to do. What I recommend is that you take the smallest of steps to change the dynamic. Make it easy to do so that it provides a very subtle difference to you. It will, therefore, be acceptable for you and the significant others around you. A straightforward and effective way of deducing what could make a difference is to think about everyday situations. Consider regular instances where you feel put upon, or taken for granted or undermined. It is those occurrences where little tweaks can swing things into your favour.

Remember, it is the mutuality of the power dynamic that is an advantage to you. It is not selfishness; it is valuing who you are. Place your efforts where they are needed and are of most use to improving your powerbase. Think of it as small activities that replenish you, rather than continuing to do what you no longer want to do just for someone else. Taking this approach will fuel you to make more small but significant steps and then Boom! Every part of you has infused your powerbase. 

It will lead you to bigger things, such as changing the state of affairs that fill you with dread. When you feel ready, they will not seem like a step too far. It will feel like the right thing for you to do at that time. The inner powerbase will continue to drive you forward, and the next significant shift happens. A time will come when you decide to remove the core of hurt and pain that still resides in your body. After all, it is yours to do something with, so do it.

The Pig

The pig, on the other hand, slowly snuffles and wallows in what feels pleasant. It represents the awful system that should protect the vulnerable from the diabolical people that prey on them. A society that feels comfortable when they don’t think about or act accordingly to the abuse children and adults suffer. It is so much easier to sweep it under the carpet until a mighty storm gathers. At the point when things are high profile, something gets done about it. Too much public outcry makes change happen. 

In the meantime, all the lower level, scandals keep happening every day. They remain hidden from the public gaze and public scrutiny. One abused person is not big enough, and yet when it becomes hundreds, society had better do something about it. It would be wrong not to wouldn’t it?

What is so erroneous is the unseen extent of abuse and its far-reaching effects on our health system and public finances. Every abused person is damaged, and they need access to the necessary support services to recover from it. Ignoring the extent of the matter time and time again allows it to continue to happen. The pig needs to see everything and acknowledge that even the smallest of cases have far-reaching consequences down the line. The pig needs to get a high viz jacket!

By Linda J Newby, PhD

Healer and author for the abused

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